Do your loved ones tell you the phrase “friend, realize” more times than you have heard a “I love you”? It is time for you to leave everything and pay attention to this. You don’t have to be a scientist to realize that living in a “cut and return” courtship every weekend is the worst quality of life you can offer your emotional well-being.
Science has discovered that returning with your ex is more counterproductive for your health of what it is for the time (or years of life) you lose in that relationship.
An investigation by the University of Missouri found that when you live a “boomerang” courtship, you are more exposed to suffer from psychological distress and, without a doubt, that will not bring anything good.
A study was conducted in which 545 people were surveyed, all in a romantic relationship, and their levels of anxiety and depression were rated. The second factor to analyze was whether these relationships used to be intermittent, that is, to “come and go constantly.”
The frequency and amount of separations and reconciliations yielded percentages to define the conclusions of the study. It was discovered that approximately one third of the participants lived in this type of toxic relationship, and it was in this group that higher rates of anxiety and depression were detected.
The study’s co-author, Kale Mon, assistant professor of human development and family sciences at the University of Missouri, made clear the level of danger to which you can expose yourself if you continue with this repetitive behavior, in favor of “finding love “
The findings suggest that people who are regularly breaking up and returning with their partners need to analyze with a cold head what happens with their relationships. If people are more honest with themselves, they can take the necessary steps to maintain their relationship or to end it healthily. This is vital to preserving your emotional well-being.
We know that ruptures are annoying in themselves, but this anguish is considered normal and often temporary. However, a pattern of stressful transitions in and out of the same relationship could have deeper implications for our well-being.
People fall back into toxic relationships due to habit, convenience, or obligation, none of which bodes well for the quality of a courtship.
Also, according to the study, people with a higher rate of depression and anxiety tend to be more likely to enter into toxic relationships, in a kind of self-destructive cycle.